Reasons We Fail In Love
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Love is said to be a universal language because everyone talks about it. Even with the talks about love, a few have mastered it through understanding. A lot of times we throw the word but we rarely understand what it is. Through life experiences, I have questioned this beautiful language and I wanna share my understanding.
I now have accepted that this word is not associated with choice, it is a feeling and as I usually say, the feeling is a spiritual thing. We fail so much in love because we associate it with physicality. The physical being is second nature to the spirit being. We live by the spirit and that is the ruler of being.
Here are the reasons why we fail in love.
1. Not understand that we are loved
We are born of the spirit and we are spirit and so we are feeling. Love is a feeling and so that qualifies us to be love. Us not understanding that takes attention from us and we seek to be loved if no one shows us love we don't think love exists and so we can't love. When you don't acknowledge that you are the love you fail yourself first. This is the root of the problem.
2. Associating love with people
Too often when the language love comes up, it is associated with people. Relationships come to play. We tend to give love and receive love- that is the usual language. However, how do you expect to give or receive something you are not able to be. Love is opposed by hate and hate is a feeling of not understanding. Life is a gift of love, you are basically given love with your life. But failure to understand that makes you invalid of it and so hope to receive it from other people. People who love each other is a result of who they are first.
Too often when the language love comes up, it is associated with people. Relationships come to play. We tend to give love and receive love- that is the usual language. However, how do you expect to give or receive something you are not able to be. Love is opposed by hate and hate is a feeling of not understanding. Life is a gift of love, you are basically given love with your life. But failure to understand that makes you invalid of it and so hope to receive it from other people. People who love each other is a result of who they are first.
3. Not knowing yourself
We never have enough time to dive deep in our thoughts and define who we are. This is a result of not being aware of our existence. We live in people's parade so much we look for ourselves in people. We watch them go through processes we should be going through ourselves. Instead of going back to ourselves we live in their lives and live like them. We then have the idea of love through them but don't necessarily possess the love. We shy from ourselves because we feel they live the best life. We then fail at being our own truth and truth is love.
We never have enough time to dive deep in our thoughts and define who we are. This is a result of not being aware of our existence. We live in people's parade so much we look for ourselves in people. We watch them go through processes we should be going through ourselves. Instead of going back to ourselves we live in their lives and live like them. We then have the idea of love through them but don't necessarily possess the love. We shy from ourselves because we feel they live the best life. We then fail at being our own truth and truth is love.
4. Playing games of love
You grow up with people saying they love each other around you and automatically you think you have to do the same. You follow in the trap of living according to the environment. You never stop to question what they are doing. You just follow suit in observation of a feeling thing you really can't see. A lot of people have been playing the game of love as an excuse for physical attraction. The physical attraction is also obscure as it is influenced by a lot of external factors people take from. Love never chooses it to feel, so if you are still choosing, you are playing games.
You grow up with people saying they love each other around you and automatically you think you have to do the same. You follow in the trap of living according to the environment. You never stop to question what they are doing. You just follow suit in observation of a feeling thing you really can't see. A lot of people have been playing the game of love as an excuse for physical attraction. The physical attraction is also obscure as it is influenced by a lot of external factors people take from. Love never chooses it to feel, so if you are still choosing, you are playing games.
5. Last but not least, pressure.
Everyone is expected to love but it is not explained how. You grow up and see people doing it and think you are forced to do it when it is a need that comes with self-discovery. Self-discovery is not a pressure, it is a basic need for purpose fulfillment. We must understand that we are alive for a reason and once that reason is revealed so will love. If you still think you are expected to love to fit in, it won't be for a good reason, so stop and talk to self.
Everyone is expected to love but it is not explained how. You grow up and see people doing it and think you are forced to do it when it is a need that comes with self-discovery. Self-discovery is not a pressure, it is a basic need for purpose fulfillment. We must understand that we are alive for a reason and once that reason is revealed so will love. If you still think you are expected to love to fit in, it won't be for a good reason, so stop and talk to self.
In closing
There's more to you than what people expect, people want you to be who they want you to be and that steals from your truth. The bare minimum you could do is center your life around yourself and a lot of things will make sense. The opposite of the above points applies and that will guarantee you truth and truth is love.
There's more to you than what people expect, people want you to be who they want you to be and that steals from your truth. The bare minimum you could do is center your life around yourself and a lot of things will make sense. The opposite of the above points applies and that will guarantee you truth and truth is love.
Love you tons.
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