Breaking Point!

#MyLifeBeing

I have really reached a point where I actually don't really care what people do with their lives. I have always been one to give advices to those who are close to me and I did this because I care, but this has taught me that people ask for your advice and expect you to say what they want to hear. If you tell them the truth they pretend to understand and go on to do exactly what they want to do which is the opposite of the truth.

When you now tell them the truth, their feelings at the moment translate it as you being jealous, so they go back to make efforts to discredit your opinion by proving you wrong. That's why they come back again to gloat about the progress that you see has disaster written all over it.

Now the most annoying thing is that time and again they come back for more advice and I know now that they just want me to validate what they feel or want to do. It's also annoying because I never tell them about my problems so I wonder if they think I don't have things I think or worry about.

I am a really upfront and honest person, I always find a way to deal with my issues and I never make them other people's problem. Now that I have that myself I struggle to understand why can't other people be independent in their problem solving. Why the need for validation?

But I figured out that these people are really not confident in themselves, they need a second opinion to their lives and even though they don't take your opinion they love hearing you speak about their lives, which makes them important. They feed of your effort and don't really appreciate it.

I am ready to keep it all to myself when it comes to such people. Those who deserve it will receive it.

Love you tons.